My dad comes to me in a dream. He sits next to the bed, smiling and laughing. He is smiling and laughing at me. I know this smile.
“Knock it off,” he whispers. “You know better. So do better.”
I rouse to rebuff him, but he waves me off.
“Life is horrible, messy, and unpredictable,” he reminds me. “So what? Nobody gets out of this alive. Look at what makes your life worth living—who makes your life worth living, and be happy about it.”
Dammit. He’s always right.
I go back to sleep and wake up with a renewed sense of appreciation. Hot dog! I can see past my nose again! Rather than dwelling on the chaos, I choose to be grateful for our family—the ones who show up when we need them, to shovel our drive, carry in wood, and provide a much-needed distraction.
I think of the co-workers who step in to cover my classes at the last minute and the friends who bring flowers, groceries, treats, and home-cooked meals.
I’m grateful for the phone calls, thoughtful texts, well-wishes, and prayers that have been offered for Herb and me. It reminds me that it’s not all about me, and I feel blessed to have such incredible support.
We leave this week for the Mayo Clinic, where Herb will have spine surgery. We’re excited but realistic about what’s ahead.
I love you guys. I’ve been reading a book regarding happiness and how to lean into the negative emotions that are both perpetual and normal. Has started to help me during my life of chaos and also never ending trials this past year. Build the Life You Want by Arthur C. Brooks. Anyway, good luck to Herb, I’m thinking about you 🙂
We love you too, Jess! Thank you for taking the time to write and to recommend the book. I am definitely going to check it out. Give yourself and Rocky a big hug. I miss you and treasure our time together. T
It’s February 2 nd. I’d love to hear how you both are doing.
Sending love and hugs.
Hilary
Thank you Hilly. We leave for Mayo on Friday and surgery is on Friday 2/7. I’ll keep you in the loop.
Dear Tina, wonderful heartfelt words. Thank you for sharing your feelings❣️ safe travels and prayers for only the best outcome.
Regards
Kacey Hobson
New EMail address: kacey.hobson@gmail.com
Thank you so much. I love you Casey.
Tina,
I did not know all this! I DO know one thing. You are the brightest light
Herb is lucky to have you as his partner. This is the river of life we all are navigating. The rapids are scary and exhilarating, the calm waters restful. It’s all worth it and you, my friend are the one everyone would like to take that trip with. Big hearts and hugs to you both, and best outcome at Mayo.❤️
Beautiful words. I love you. Thank you and sending the same wishes back to you. T
Hello sweetheart!
Best of luck to you both. This is a beautiful bit of writing that captures what it feels like to love and to be human.
Take good care of yourself
Thank you, Nikki. I miss you and appreciate your good wishes. I hope you are thriving!